It’s no secret that the pandemic has taken its toll on the nation’s sex drive. Not only is sex drive loss or low libido a common symptom of long COVID, but the mental health implications of Everything That’s Going On Right Now are unlikely to be getting us fired up.
One survey, conducted back in January last year, found that of almost 900 British adults found that 60% of people weren’t having sex or engaging in sexual activity – including masturbation – even once a week in lockdown.
But have things changed a year on?
Though there are no new studies to compare the data with, various sex & relationship coaches and Google searches around increasing sex drive seem to suggest that, as a nation, we’ve yet to fully recover our appetite in the bedroom.
And is it little wonder? With the pandemic still rolling on and many of us still processing anxiety and stress that have accumulated over the past few years, getting our heads — and our bodies — back in the game can still feel like an impossible task.
“I still have a consistent stream of enquiries from people who are concerned about their lack of sex drive,” therapist and founder of TS Therapy, Tami Sobell tells GLAMOUR. “Even though we are no longer in a lockdown, couples are still spending much more time together than has ever been deemed ‘normal’ pre-pandemic and this impacts our sex lives in several ways.”
“First of all, it blurs the line between work and play. There doesn’t seem to be any separation between a working day and a weekend day, and so our interactions with our partners have merged too. Many of us no longer have the opportunity to miss our partners or to experience a build-up to seeing them,” Tami explains. “And even though we are spending constant time with one another, it’s the time we spend connecting that counts when it comes to intimacy, which is actually something we got much more of when we had boundaries between work and home.”
“As well as this, what covid has done has made everyone more anxious and people are still not feeling quite themselves — perhaps they lost their job, a loved one or have been dealing with more overwhelm than pre-pandemic — and when you aren’t feeling yourself, or good about yourself, it’s often hard to shift your mindset into wanting to be intimidate with other people.”
“When you don’t feel connected to yourself, you can’t feel connected to your partner, and this creates pressure, but becoming aware of how normal it is to be feeling a lack of sex drive can help to ease this,” she adds.
Why is my libido so low?
“There are many reasons why you may more generally be experiencing a low sex drive,” says Dr Giuseppe Aragona, GP and online doctor for prescriptiondoctor.com. “You may feel isolated, unenergised or demotivated, and this in turn will affect sex drive. Your sex drive can vary depending on your environment and how you spend your time, and if you are stuck at home alone, chances are you’ll experience low sex drive.”